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The Best Dates We Ever Had
The best dates we have ever been on are the ones that were
the most fun with the best company. They may not end in blinding
love or marriage but they may have lived on with us because
we enjoyed them so much. There was something memorable about
them. Lots of dates are mundane, dull, meaningless repetition
of standard question and answer sessions punctuated by some
forced humor and attempt to keep things genuine whilst knowing
the moment you exit the cafe, you will never see that person
again. Personally I have traveled all over the country on
dates and some have been truly awful and the odd one, spectacular.
The best dates are the simplest, the least forced, the most
natural. The best dates can happen with a complete stranger
out of nowhere, or are planned weeks in advance by making
special plans to win your date's heart. I remember chatting
with a person on an Internet dating site on Saturday evening
and within an hour of first chatting we had met for a drink.
That Saturday evening in Chicago was tremendous fun, the person
fantastic company, 4 hours of laughter and great food. We
swapped life stories and details of the smallest things about
our lives and for those briefest of hours everything was fabulous.
Due to travel etc., we never met again but the point is that
a perfect date can really be that unplanned.
I think it's true that when we plan something too far in advance
we can get carried away and build things up to much higher
levels than is really justified. If I know we are going on
a date three weeks on Saturday I will start planning, however
much I try not to. What will I wear, how will I wear my hair,
what will they be like, will anything come of it. And so on.
Before you know it, a simple date has turned into the planning
In other words, simple spontaneous dates are the best. Formality
too tends to wreck the best dates. Somewhere too formal doesn't
allow both parties to relax and can be oppressive and stifling.
The worry of getting everything right, ordering the correct
dishes, selecting the right wine, even paying the check. Particularly
the right clothes. A self assured dating partner will allow
things to flow more smoothly and put you at your ease but
the point is, the best dates involve somewhere far more relaxed.
It could be a diner an a walk in the park, a beach bar and
a stroll on the beach. So always choose something where both
people can be comfortable, kick off their shoes and just chill.
The best dates are ones that begin with few expectations and
open into something much greater. A short meeting over a coffee
ends up being a day long passionate conversation. A lunch
hour one afternoon ends up taking over the whole day, even
weekend. They are the best dates. Not expecting your date
to be anything special and discovering that they are amazing,
that is a good date too. Two people who end up becoming a
couple will always remember how they met and what they did
so it is always important to put some thought into every date
you go on.
I think if you date continually for the sake of it then you
will have some idea of your idea of a perfect date and how
it would go. Even if you haven't met anyone fabulous lately
you can still imagine what best dates should be like for you.
There are a great many clichés surrounding dates, from
sunsets over blue lagoons to romantic restaurants in Rome.
They are things we can aspire to in our fantasies. But having
great dates means being open minded, being open to new people,
new ideas and very good conversation. I often observe friends
with their lists of questions that they reel off as they go
through the motions on a first date and wonder why they get
My method always involves meeting and greeting my date like
I have know them years. In this way I put myself and them
at easy. I love to talk so I always try and get us both to
chat about anything and everything over a glass of wine. If
it flows naturally then great, if it doesn't then its fine
as I always set a mental time limit at first. My favorite
best dates have always been with charming individuals who
are interesting and interested. They have always been brief
encounters the first time where I am dying to meet them again.
They are instant adrenaline shots, they are eye opening meetings
that me salivate with anticipation. I put some of that down
to trying to date the kind of people I get along with but
also being extremely receptive to new ideas.
Your best dates with differ from mine probably, but the point
is, treasure best dates as excellent memories and experiences.
You have met some great people and you are going to meet a
few more along the way before your dating is done.